Therapy for Self-Esteem

Based on Chapter 7 of The Divided Soul

Self Esteem and Dissociation

There are two factors that must be present in order to lose access to your God given

self-esteem. If you are a person with multiple personalities: 1) You must possess the

innate ability to dissociate (which is your hereditary heritage), and 2) You must also

be traumatized. (Your hereditary abilities are from God; the traumas are from Satan.)

Types of Trauma

The traumas of life may be intentional or just happen. Without going into too much

depth, I will give here a suggestive few.

Fear trauma seems to be the major traumatizer. There is womb trauma (trauma that

splits the child in the womb), parental rejection, the mother’s personal traumatic

experiences, alcohol and drug addiction, abuse, etc. There is birth trauma that occurs

in the birthing process, doctor generated or mother’s difficulties in bringing forth her

child.

There is trauma in the family of origin arising out of a vast number of parental

dysfunctions, self-centeredness and cruelties. These include such things as the chaos

of the alcoholic or drug addicted home. There is the lack of structure, provision and

safety, perfectionism, negative critical faultfinding family interactions. There is abuse,

physical, sexual, verbal, religious, ritual and emotional. There is emotional

deprivation, lack of love, belonging and unconditional acceptance, lack of caring,

nurturing appropriate touch, word and interactive time spent together and many more.

There are accidents causing brain trauma, disfigurement, anxiety and periodic and

particular phobias. There is cruelty that causes the above based on intention to hurt

and destroying which violate normal and healthy boundaries and many more.

The Trauma Process

Whatever the trauma, Satan and his hosts use it against us at the crucial moment to

inflict deep and enduring traumas on us.

The Personality is split—The birth personality, the part of us that makes executive

decisions, is split out of the whole of the personality. At this time the inner self helper

is formed. This is the one who lives life day by day in a wholesome and healthy

manner. Many other alters are formed as well.

The Demonic Invasion—Demons, fallen angels and spirits of the dead, the

unredeemed of all the ages and other alters not native to the person’s personality

invade the traumatized one.

Self-esteem Is Hidden—Most of the time the self-esteem, which is an entity that

carries our value of our worth, is stolen. It is then hidden somewhere within our

personality.

If the person is male the self-esteem will be male, if they are female, female. At the

point of trauma and splitting the alters stop growing psychologically and will remain

that age. They will remain that age until found and healed. With lesser trauma the

self-esteem will be covered over all the time. With even less trauma the self-esteem

will be misted over at critical moments and hidden from view. When any of these

three occur, the person will revert to performance-based love and acceptance.

Salvation Necessary—Every separated part of the personality, self-esteem, or any

other, must be saved. These parts, or alters, or personalities, are all making decisions

separate from the birth personality. Each has spirit, mind, emotion and will. They are

asked to make a voluntary decision to accept the Lord Jesus as Savior and Lord.

The Core of Being—The core of being is that place where God has put all He created

us to be when He knit us together in our mother’s womb.

After the Theft—After the theft (or covering) of the true self has occurred, we are put

into a crisis state. We no longer know who we are. The normal state of the dissociated

person is I don’t know who I am. This causes problems; we cannot be nobody and live.

We have to be someone. In this vacuum we create a self. What we create is not the

true self that God created, but a false self.

The False Self—This false self only works after a fashion, and not well. Whereas the

true self is created by God; we make the false self. The true self is a state of being—

being who we really are. The false self is an ongoing attempt to be somebody. It’s an

effort, a doing, a performance.

The false self performs so as to be validated. Without validation from significant

people one does not feel he is good, valuable and precious. Lack of validation

amounts to an attack on self. This is the essence of performance-based love and

acceptance. They are forever performing, trying to prove to others and reassure

themselves they are someone of value. It’s like walking on a treadmill—it uses up a

lot of energy, but in the end, you are in the same spot as when you started. After a

brief moment of feeling good about ourselves, it fades away. We then have to start all

over again. [See illustration.]

Reversal of the Trauma Process

An interaction of the therapist and the individual led by the Holy Spirit can take place

to find or discover self-esteem. The therapist is aided by the Holy Spirit by words of

wisdom and words of knowledge.When found, there is usually given a nurturing angel for the true self. This angel will stay with self-esteem until he/she reaches maturity. Adulthood is recognized to be eighteen years of age. During this time the self-esteem is completely restored. When eighteen years of age he/she is integrated back into the core of being. If the child self- esteem is integrated before adulthood, the child would be traumatized by adult

demands on them.

During the maturation time, two of God’s angels are assigned and taught to be the

self-esteem by the Lord. There are two angels because they each work 12-hour shifts.

They enter into the core of being and they become who we are. Who we are is then

visible to the spirit person within. The true self then knows who he/she is. We are who

the Word of God says we are. We are loved and therefore lovable and many other

attributes of personality are added and understood. The true self, the self-esteem that

God creates is a state of being, not something we must attempt to be.

For more information and help check out Dr. Coad’s book, The Divided Soul in the

Book Store.

Category: Norman's Place

Tag: Multiple Personality Disorder